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Embracing Our Child’s Uniqueness

Capturing a photo of Eden smiling is so rare. She usually stares at the phone lens with an incredulous look on her face, even if she was smiling just a moment before. ⁣

Penelope, on the other hand could be in the midst of tears and I could ask her to smile for a photo she would stop immediately and give it her best, most joyful smile.⁣

This doesn’t make one child better than the other, 𝐢𝐭 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭. ⁣
How boring if people were all the same! ⁣

Don’t forget to embrace your children’s differences and encourage them to love themselves exactly how they are by loving them exactly how they are! ⁣

Does that mean we ignore the parts of their character that need improvement? 𝐍𝐨. ⁣
But it’s important to distinguish the difference and only guide them into changing the parts of their character that they need to grow in. ⁣

Eden not wanting to smile on demand for photos? That’s a characteristic I don’t need to change. It’s her personality. ⁣

Eden not wanting to share? That’s something that is very normal and we’re slowly working to show her how wonderful sharing can be. ⁣

Jordyn Armouris refreshing with her authenticity and honesty when it comes to parenting and writes about anything parenting related, using sarcasm and humor to tie everything together. She is a stay at home mom to four girls and runs survivingmommy.org , Instagram @surviving_mommy and Twitter @survivingmommy_

Understanding our Children

We have a rule that there are no toys allowed at the dinner table or in bed. Three weeks ago, Penelope decided to surround herself with stuffed animals at bedtime. Technically, stuffed animals are toys but they’re also a lot like pillows and provide comfort.

I chose to talk to her about it instead of making a rash decision and Penelope informed me that they “protect her” and would help her sleep. I decided to make an allowance and made a deal with her: She may take as many of them to bed with her as she wants as long as she’s not playing and makes a good effort to fall asleep.

I believe consistency is one of the most important ingredients in parenting but that understanding is equally important.

If Penelope feels secure and safe surrounded by thirty stuffed animals while she sleeps, I’m not going to tell her no. She agreed to my conditions and there have only been a couple of nights I have had to take her stuffed animals away.

We have been given our children on loan as a gift and they deserve to feel understood just like every other human being in this world.

Jordyn Armouris refreshing with her authenticity and honesty when it comes to parenting and writes about anything parenting related, using sarcasm and humor to tie everything together. She is a stay at home mom to four girls and runs survivingmommy.org Instagram @surviving_mommy and Twitter @survivingmommy_

Adolescent Suicide is a Big Problem

“I stay off of social media, it just gives me too much anxiety seeing everyone’s perfect lives.”

I’ve heard this often from adults but never from a teenager. “Maybe you don’t talk to enough teenagers,” you might say.

I would respond with this: I did hair for almost a decade and many of my clients were in Junior High and High School and shared a lot of private things with me, including their struggles, so I sort of have a little experience interacting with that age group.

Do you remember being an adolescent? Emotional maturity, self-image and judgement are incredibly difficult to master or control during this time. Can you imagine how hard it would be for someone ages 10-25 to deliberately choose to swear off the very thing that could be causing their depression? Something that nearly ALL of their peers are engaging in? I’m talking about Social Media, specifically.

I believe that it could prove nearly impossible and that’s why I think it’s time we parents take matters into our own hands.

Some believe that suicide is the SECOND leading cause of death in Americans between 10 and 34. What’s one obvious difference between this generation and those before it? Digital technology.

We can tell an adolescent until we are blue in the face that people are simply showing the highlights but that’s not going to convince them. Humans learn through experience best and until our children get out there and start living their lives alone, it’s probably not going to click for them.

So for now the best we can do is all we can do: Educate ourselves on adolescent suicide and on digital technology. The internet is a powerful tool friends, let’s arm ourselves with the knowledge we each individually need and take back our children.

The application of this may look different for each family as our family dynamics and cultures are all different, a knowledgeable parent usually knows what’s best for their individual child.

Jordyn Armour is refreshing with her authenticity and honesty when it comes to parenting and writes about anything parenting related, using sarcasm and humor to tie everything together. She is a stay at home mom to four girls and runs survivingmommy.org Instagram @surviving_mommy and Twitter @survivingmommy_