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Embracing Our Child’s Uniqueness

Capturing a photo of Eden smiling is so rare. She usually stares at the phone lens with an incredulous look on her face, even if she was smiling just a moment before. ⁣

Penelope, on the other hand could be in the midst of tears and I could ask her to smile for a photo she would stop immediately and give it her best, most joyful smile.⁣

This doesn’t make one child better than the other, 𝐢𝐭 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭. ⁣
How boring if people were all the same! ⁣

Don’t forget to embrace your children’s differences and encourage them to love themselves exactly how they are by loving them exactly how they are! ⁣

Does that mean we ignore the parts of their character that need improvement? 𝐍𝐨. ⁣
But it’s important to distinguish the difference and only guide them into changing the parts of their character that they need to grow in. ⁣

Eden not wanting to smile on demand for photos? That’s a characteristic I don’t need to change. It’s her personality. ⁣

Eden not wanting to share? That’s something that is very normal and we’re slowly working to show her how wonderful sharing can be. ⁣

Jordyn Armouris refreshing with her authenticity and honesty when it comes to parenting and writes about anything parenting related, using sarcasm and humor to tie everything together. She is a stay at home mom to four girls and runs survivingmommy.org , Instagram @surviving_mommy and Twitter @survivingmommy_

Understanding our Children

We have a rule that there are no toys allowed at the dinner table or in bed. Three weeks ago, Penelope decided to surround herself with stuffed animals at bedtime. Technically, stuffed animals are toys but they’re also a lot like pillows and provide comfort.

I chose to talk to her about it instead of making a rash decision and Penelope informed me that they “protect her” and would help her sleep. I decided to make an allowance and made a deal with her: She may take as many of them to bed with her as she wants as long as she’s not playing and makes a good effort to fall asleep.

I believe consistency is one of the most important ingredients in parenting but that understanding is equally important.

If Penelope feels secure and safe surrounded by thirty stuffed animals while she sleeps, I’m not going to tell her no. She agreed to my conditions and there have only been a couple of nights I have had to take her stuffed animals away.

We have been given our children on loan as a gift and they deserve to feel understood just like every other human being in this world.

Jordyn Armouris refreshing with her authenticity and honesty when it comes to parenting and writes about anything parenting related, using sarcasm and humor to tie everything together. She is a stay at home mom to four girls and runs survivingmommy.org Instagram @surviving_mommy and Twitter @survivingmommy_