Having a baby is the most miraculous thing that a couple can experience.

When you held that baby in your arms for the first time and they looked into your eyes you knew this was the best thing you and your partner had ever done.

The love that you felt for each other and this new life in that moment was greater than any love you’d ever felt.

Four months later when you’re surviving off of less sleep than you ever imagined possible, you can’t remember the last time you went on a date and money is tighter than it’s ever been it’s hard to remember how that moment felt.

New babies shake up your entire routine and require your constant care and attention. But if you don’t take care of yourselves and your partner in the process it’s going to be the biggest mistake you’ll ever make.

Even when the baby goes to sleep at a decent hour and sex is a possibility you realize that you’ve both been fighting so much lately that it’s not even something you want to do. Or maybe you’re just so exhausted you’d rather sleep than put energy into sex.

What do you do when the best thing that ever happened to both of you seems to be the very thing that is driving you both apart?

You have sex.

Don’t feel like it? Do it anyway. Sex is a need.

This is both the best and the worst season you will go through as a couple and if you’re not having sex you’re both going to become so irritable and frustrated that it’s going to continue to push you farther away from each other.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the good days are gone but they don’t have to be gone forever. Reclaim the heart of your lover because that’s who they used to be and that’s who they can be again.

Even if it doesn’t come naturally at first, you’ll find that sex can start to mend that which seemed broken.

No matter how much you don’t like the other person for reasons that you just can’t explain you’ve got to do like Nike and JUST DO IT.

Whether it’s been four months or four years: Start now.

Get out the whipped cream.

Have sex in the shower.

Give each other massages.

Light a candle.

Do something new.

No matter how you’re feeling, jump back in there and start doing it as often as possible. It may seem awkward at first but if you push through that and keep at it, it will become natural again.

You have the power to make it better than it was before and this is the best gift you can give to yourselves and your child.

Stay safe,

Jordyn Armour